INTRODUCTION - SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE

 

If you saw the emotional turmoil portrayed in the movies War of the Roses and Kramer vs. Kramer, you’d probably think twice about divorce. Unhappy individuals who believe that ending their marriage would make them happier are often living a myth.

Chances are, they’ve attributed the failure of their marriage to their spouse. Each one blaming the other, instead of examining themselves.

By failing to accept their own frailties, and not realizing that they’ve entered the marriage with unrealistic expectations, they unconsciously set themselves up for a potential separation. 

There’s also the phenomenon of short memories. For some reason, the same individuals who vowed to support each other during their time of wedded bliss have forgotten their commitment and vows to love each other through thick and thin.

Our modern society has indeed become a disposable society.  This is what Alvin Toffler predicted almost two decades ago. This state of “disposableness” is reflected in our ability to delete and purge and shred what we no longer need. 

And when our once beloved partner is no longer of use to us, we call our lawyer and instruct him/her to initiate divorce proceedings. 

Funny, but despite its harrowing and complex web, divorce has also become just a phone call away, a “to go” solution that we can pick up on the way to the cleaners.

Truth is, divorce has an ugly side to it.  It’s the easy way out for people who have not an ounce of courage to salvage what deserves to be salvaged. 

Divorce un-builds and undoes what took years to nurture,  and sadly, often the only people who benefit from it are greedy lawyers who will use every trick in the book to divest the other of assets, until no remnant of the person’s investment – physical, monetary or emotional – remains.

While divorcing couples spend their mental energies accusing the other of causing hurt and disharmony in the union, they forget that the children suffer in double doses. Couples forget that children's emotions are more fragile and harder to mend. This is when the concept of human selfishness and self-centredness become transparent. It’s odd how the true character of people comes out when they’re the actors in a divorce.

The determination not to be swayed by the lows and downs of a relationship mirrors strength and integrity, not to mention the ability to see beyond one’s personal unhappiness. And by saving a marriage, more than one human being is saved. 

This is the essence of this book. Perhaps it's the most important book you’ll ever read.

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ABOUT THE BOOK...

THE MARRIAGE INSTITUTION is under immense pressure.

Many marriages are collapsing. Divorce has become the unsavory order of the day. There are many questions and yet very few answers to help marriages survive the murky waters they have to swim across in order to survive.

Your marriage can become the cynosure of exemplary marital union and stand the test of time if you do the things thought in this book.

The truth is, it is possible to look back in a few months’ time from today and be happy you survived – our marriage survived!

Would you like to SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE from the troubles bedeviling many homes today?
If you answered YES, then this is the book for you.

This book is not only a compass; it is also a companion, and a marital success charm – YES!

You will learn among other things:

The Unpleasant Side of Divorce.

The Dollar Costs of Divorce

The Emotional Costs of Divorce

Painless Divorce?

Divorce and Children

Marriage and Happiness

For Better or For Worse

How to Save Your Marriage

Recognizing Gender Differences

Notice the Small Stuff

Money

Politics

Alone Time

The Concept of Friendship in Marriage

Friendship is Everything…

SYM contains secrets, to help keep your husband loving you more and more. And if you desire the respect, regard and reverence with maximum honor from your wife above all other men, the secrets are hidden in the pages of SYM.

The book answers to every marital prayers for harmony, peace and an assured future of bliss.

SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE!

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Telephone Conversation with Ex. His Ex Called and some Lessons there to ...

THE MONSTER

There are so many problems and vices bedeviling us as a people and nation.

It has been noted that one of our main challenges as an independent nation is the fact that we have not had leaders who are sincere and sacrificial at the saddle as a nation; leaders who are first for and about the people before they are for themselves. 

Rather, we have consistently had and still do leaders who think only of the largesse of the office; leaders who in actual fact are not leaders but rulers, dealers and in most cases, stealers. 

They are people with an entitlement mentality. They believe it is their right to use their position and authority of the office they occupy to oppress and suppress the people they lead. That is why someone who occupies a particular office can divert the money meant for developmental ventures of the society to his private account and get away with it. CORRUPTION!

But that is not the only problem we have as a people.

There is also the problem of 'followership' or should I say, the problem of the followers?

As it is with the leaders, so it is with the followers. 

We are a 'rights-wanting-people', but not a 'responsibilities-driven-people'. We have a mentality of take and grab without any desire to give. And the law of life is, "Give and it shall be given unto you." But majority of us as a people are about taking and getting without first willing to give.

It is this kind of mentality that has become the monster destroying most of our homes and marriages. 

You have people who go into marriage believing that they are there for all they can get. In fact they believe it is their right only to go and get and not to give.

Both men and women are guilty of this. It is however more prevalent among women. It is women who mostly believe that they are in 'the marriage' only to be served and serviced. They are there for their husbands to meet all their needs and in most cases are not willing and ready to support in meeting the needs at home. 

Many women will tell you, "My money is my money, but your money is our money." This is the kind of mentality the devil has been using to destroy many homes.

Many women are nothing but liabilities on their husbands. They are leaches - parasites. 

It is time we changed this attitude as a people if we desire change in our homes and nation.

Everyone must learn to give and not only to take.

Bible encourages and says, "Can two walk together, except they agree?" In another place it says, "One shall put to flight one thousand, and two shall put to flight ten thousand." 

Bottom line, we must cooperate, collaborate, synergize, and work together to achieve our dreams and desires. "Two heads are better than one." Always!

It is time to kill this MONSTER before it kills us.

May we succeed.

May our marriages succeed.

May our nation succeed. 

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