The bond of love between Tracy and Chuks was so strong in the early stages of their marriage.
Not too long after their marriage, Tracy began to show traces of disrespect for Chuks. Chuks found this behaviour from his wife very strange. Unknown to him she had started listening to wrong counsel from her friends and was acting out the script. All this because Chuks was not in a financial position that could fund the lifestyle Tracy had dreamt of having after marriage…
The mistake many people make is to think that tough times last forever…
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Sometimes, the fire of love burns out and its cord gets broken and once very affectionate lovebirds gradually grow apart and in some cases, they go apart.
You claim he doesn't have your time anymore; you say now that he has money he comes home late and goes after other women after you suffered with him when he didn't have anything. As far as you are concerned he no longer loves you.
You see, the question is not about suffering with him, it’s about HOW you suffered with him.
How did you treat him when he didn't have money? Did you respect him? Did you accord him the regard and honour a husband deserves though he may not have money? Or did you treat him like nobody and talk trash at him? Before he said one, you had said ten. You stood up to him. You told him you have equal rights in the house. If you asked him for money and he couldn’t provide it as at when you needed it, then he was not a man, irrespective of whatever he did the day before.
Madam, HOW did you suffer with him?
Maybe you didn't realise that while you treated him with disdain because he couldn't match up with your expectations (which in most cases are always based on trying to keep up with the Joneses, wanting to do what your friends or neighbours are doing, and greed and lack of contentment), you were sowing seeds and sending messages to him.
You were simply saying you don't love him, it is money you love and want. And this was so glaring to him because anytime he was able to make money available was when you cuddled up to him. And that was the only time he was allowed to touch you in any way a husband could touch his wife.
But the irony is that now that he has money, the seeds you sowed are beginning to germinate and are even bearing fruits.
I must say this is not a blanket message, but he that has an ear, let him/her hear...
Women must understand that all men cannot operate at the same financial level. Women must understand that the dynamics of the economic realities of today are far from what it used to be and the rules of engagement must change. Women must accept that in today's world, it is wickedness to expect only the man to bear all the financial responsibilities, especially where the woman also works and earns income.
In the final analysis, I will say, let every family work out their own salvation with fear and trembling so that we will all have peaceful homes.
#TheyTwoShallBecomeOne
#Abbeylosophy
Abiodun Mabadeje
Not too long after their marriage, Tracy began to show traces of disrespect for Chuks. Chuks found this behaviour from his wife very strange. Unknown to him she had started listening to wrong counsel from her friends and was acting out the script. All this because Chuks was not in a financial position that could fund the lifestyle Tracy had dreamt of having after marriage…
The mistake many people make is to think that tough times last forever…
…………………………………………………………………………………………….
Sometimes, the fire of love burns out and its cord gets broken and once very affectionate lovebirds gradually grow apart and in some cases, they go apart.
You claim he doesn't have your time anymore; you say now that he has money he comes home late and goes after other women after you suffered with him when he didn't have anything. As far as you are concerned he no longer loves you.
You see, the question is not about suffering with him, it’s about HOW you suffered with him.
How did you treat him when he didn't have money? Did you respect him? Did you accord him the regard and honour a husband deserves though he may not have money? Or did you treat him like nobody and talk trash at him? Before he said one, you had said ten. You stood up to him. You told him you have equal rights in the house. If you asked him for money and he couldn’t provide it as at when you needed it, then he was not a man, irrespective of whatever he did the day before.
Madam, HOW did you suffer with him?
Maybe you didn't realise that while you treated him with disdain because he couldn't match up with your expectations (which in most cases are always based on trying to keep up with the Joneses, wanting to do what your friends or neighbours are doing, and greed and lack of contentment), you were sowing seeds and sending messages to him.
You were simply saying you don't love him, it is money you love and want. And this was so glaring to him because anytime he was able to make money available was when you cuddled up to him. And that was the only time he was allowed to touch you in any way a husband could touch his wife.
But the irony is that now that he has money, the seeds you sowed are beginning to germinate and are even bearing fruits.
I must say this is not a blanket message, but he that has an ear, let him/her hear...
Women must understand that all men cannot operate at the same financial level. Women must understand that the dynamics of the economic realities of today are far from what it used to be and the rules of engagement must change. Women must accept that in today's world, it is wickedness to expect only the man to bear all the financial responsibilities, especially where the woman also works and earns income.
In the final analysis, I will say, let every family work out their own salvation with fear and trembling so that we will all have peaceful homes.
#TheyTwoShallBecomeOne
#Abbeylosophy
Abiodun Mabadeje
