There
are so many problems and vices bedeviling us as a people and nation.
It has
been noted that one of our main challenges as an independent nation is the fact
that we have not had leaders who are sincere and sacrificial at the saddle as a
nation; leaders who are first for and about the people before they are for
themselves.
Rather,
we have consistently had and still do leaders who think only of the largesse of
the office; leaders who in actual fact are not leaders but rulers, dealers and
in most cases, stealers.
They
are people with an entitlement mentality. They believe it is their right to use
their position and authority of the office they occupy to oppress and suppress
the people they lead. That is why someone who occupies a particular office can
divert the money meant for developmental ventures of the society to his private
account and get away with it. CORRUPTION!
But
that is not the only problem we have as a people.
There
is also the problem of 'followership' or should I say, the problem of the
followers?
As it
is with the leaders, so it is with the followers.
We are
a 'rights-wanting-people', but not a 'responsibilities-driven-people'. We have
a mentality of take and grab without any desire to give. And the law of life is,
"Give and it shall be given unto you."
But majority of us as a people are about taking and getting without first
willing to give.
It is
this kind of mentality that has become the monster destroying most of our homes
and marriages.
You
have people who go into marriage believing that they are there for all they can
get. In fact they believe it is their right only to go and get and not to give.
Both
men and women are guilty of this. It is however more prevalent among women. It
is women who mostly believe that they are in 'the marriage' only to be served
and serviced. They are there for their husbands to meet all their needs and in
most cases are not willing and ready to support in meeting the needs at
home.
Many
women will tell you, "My money is my
money, but your money is our money." This is the kind of mentality the
devil has been using to destroy many homes.
Many
women are nothing but liabilities on their husbands. They are leaches -
parasites.
It is
time we changed this attitude as a people if we desire change in our homes and
nation.
Everyone
must learn to give and not only to take.
Bible
encourages and says, "Can two walk
together, except they agree?" In another place it says, "One shall put to flight one thousand,
and two shall put to flight ten thousand."
Bottom
line, we must cooperate, collaborate, synergize, and work together to achieve
our dreams and desires. "Two heads
are better than one." Always!
It is
time to kill this MONSTER before it kills us.
May we
succeed.
May
our marriages succeed.
May
our nation succeed.
#Family
#Nation
#Abbeylosophy
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