THE CREATED CREATOR

The creative ability is infused into your DNA - Abiodun Mabadeje

You have no idea what abilities you possess. You have been playing at capacity levels that are far below your true potentials. 

The true meaning of being created in the image and after the likeness of God ALMIGHTY has been lost to you. 

He CREATED man out of dust and gave him breath – LIFE! He literally deposited a part of Himself into man and he became a living soul. He took on the ability and capacity to perform in the realms of ‘gods’, like God. That is your true nature.

I understand your life does not look the picture painted above. I understand you have been struggling to feed and meet basic needs, but if only you knew who you were. If you could have a glimpse of what you carry. If only you could allow the ‘God-nature’ in you to manifest – your CREATIVE ability.

Your creative ability is that power with which God called something out of nothing. He called light out of darkness. He called land to come out of the water. He formed dust into humans and gave them breath. 

That is who you are!

Your life is in chaos and everything around you seems to be in a mess. That is how things were at the beginning of creation – “Darkness was upon the surface of the deep…” Then God looked at the darkness and went to work. He turned the mess into a wonder to behold. You can do the same.

You can turn that situation around. You can make a lemonade out of the ‘lemonic’ situation you are in right now. All you have to do is to go to work. Draw on that capacity you already possess to create. 

Start with the little resources. Your thinking and speaking abilities.

Begin to see things not only as they are, but as they could be and then start calling them as you want them to be. Do this often. Do this till you become consumed in this new reality of what is possible and could be.

Then go to work again with the revealed resources. Yes, as you engage in thinking and speaking, your conscious and sub-conscious minds would open to realms beyond the natural and ideas, unction, suggestions, and revelations will begin to flood your mind. You will begin to see things with clarity and know what to do.

Take action and begin to create or innovate – simply begin to manifest. 

A word of caution. These ideas, suggestions, unction and revelations may not make sense initially, but if you are sure of where they are coming from, do not hesitate to act, because that is your miracle.

You are a creator, don’t die as just the created.  You are created to be a creator.

@AbiodunMabadeje

a.k.a Abbeylosophy

INTRODUCTION - SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE

 

If you saw the emotional turmoil portrayed in the movies War of the Roses and Kramer vs. Kramer, you’d probably think twice about divorce. Unhappy individuals who believe that ending their marriage would make them happier are often living a myth.

Chances are, they’ve attributed the failure of their marriage to their spouse. Each one blaming the other, instead of examining themselves.

By failing to accept their own frailties, and not realizing that they’ve entered the marriage with unrealistic expectations, they unconsciously set themselves up for a potential separation. 

There’s also the phenomenon of short memories. For some reason, the same individuals who vowed to support each other during their time of wedded bliss have forgotten their commitment and vows to love each other through thick and thin.

Our modern society has indeed become a disposable society.  This is what Alvin Toffler predicted almost two decades ago. This state of “disposableness” is reflected in our ability to delete and purge and shred what we no longer need. 

And when our once beloved partner is no longer of use to us, we call our lawyer and instruct him/her to initiate divorce proceedings. 

Funny, but despite its harrowing and complex web, divorce has also become just a phone call away, a “to go” solution that we can pick up on the way to the cleaners.

Truth is, divorce has an ugly side to it.  It’s the easy way out for people who have not an ounce of courage to salvage what deserves to be salvaged. 

Divorce un-builds and undoes what took years to nurture,  and sadly, often the only people who benefit from it are greedy lawyers who will use every trick in the book to divest the other of assets, until no remnant of the person’s investment – physical, monetary or emotional – remains.

While divorcing couples spend their mental energies accusing the other of causing hurt and disharmony in the union, they forget that the children suffer in double doses. Couples forget that children's emotions are more fragile and harder to mend. This is when the concept of human selfishness and self-centredness become transparent. It’s odd how the true character of people comes out when they’re the actors in a divorce.

The determination not to be swayed by the lows and downs of a relationship mirrors strength and integrity, not to mention the ability to see beyond one’s personal unhappiness. And by saving a marriage, more than one human being is saved. 

This is the essence of this book. Perhaps it's the most important book you’ll ever read.

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THE MARRIAGE INSTITUTION is under immense pressure.

Many marriages are collapsing. Divorce has become the unsavory order of the day. There are many questions and yet very few answers to help marriages survive the murky waters they have to swim across in order to survive.

Your marriage can become the cynosure of exemplary marital union and stand the test of time if you do the things thought in this book.

The truth is, it is possible to look back in a few months’ time from today and be happy you survived – our marriage survived!

Would you like to SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE from the troubles bedeviling many homes today?
If you answered YES, then this is the book for you.

This book is not only a compass; it is also a companion, and a marital success charm – YES!

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The Unpleasant Side of Divorce.

The Dollar Costs of Divorce

The Emotional Costs of Divorce

Painless Divorce?

Divorce and Children

Marriage and Happiness

For Better or For Worse

How to Save Your Marriage

Recognizing Gender Differences

Notice the Small Stuff

Money

Politics

Alone Time

The Concept of Friendship in Marriage

Friendship is Everything…

SYM contains secrets, to help keep your husband loving you more and more. And if you desire the respect, regard and reverence with maximum honor from your wife above all other men, the secrets are hidden in the pages of SYM.

The book answers to every marital prayers for harmony, peace and an assured future of bliss.

SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE!

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Telephone Conversation with Ex. His Ex Called and some Lessons there to ...

THE MONSTER

There are so many problems and vices bedeviling us as a people and nation.

It has been noted that one of our main challenges as an independent nation is the fact that we have not had leaders who are sincere and sacrificial at the saddle as a nation; leaders who are first for and about the people before they are for themselves. 

Rather, we have consistently had and still do leaders who think only of the largesse of the office; leaders who in actual fact are not leaders but rulers, dealers and in most cases, stealers. 

They are people with an entitlement mentality. They believe it is their right to use their position and authority of the office they occupy to oppress and suppress the people they lead. That is why someone who occupies a particular office can divert the money meant for developmental ventures of the society to his private account and get away with it. CORRUPTION!

But that is not the only problem we have as a people.

There is also the problem of 'followership' or should I say, the problem of the followers?

As it is with the leaders, so it is with the followers. 

We are a 'rights-wanting-people', but not a 'responsibilities-driven-people'. We have a mentality of take and grab without any desire to give. And the law of life is, "Give and it shall be given unto you." But majority of us as a people are about taking and getting without first willing to give.

It is this kind of mentality that has become the monster destroying most of our homes and marriages. 

You have people who go into marriage believing that they are there for all they can get. In fact they believe it is their right only to go and get and not to give.

Both men and women are guilty of this. It is however more prevalent among women. It is women who mostly believe that they are in 'the marriage' only to be served and serviced. They are there for their husbands to meet all their needs and in most cases are not willing and ready to support in meeting the needs at home. 

Many women will tell you, "My money is my money, but your money is our money." This is the kind of mentality the devil has been using to destroy many homes.

Many women are nothing but liabilities on their husbands. They are leaches - parasites. 

It is time we changed this attitude as a people if we desire change in our homes and nation.

Everyone must learn to give and not only to take.

Bible encourages and says, "Can two walk together, except they agree?" In another place it says, "One shall put to flight one thousand, and two shall put to flight ten thousand." 

Bottom line, we must cooperate, collaborate, synergize, and work together to achieve our dreams and desires. "Two heads are better than one." Always!

It is time to kill this MONSTER before it kills us.

May we succeed.

May our marriages succeed.

May our nation succeed. 

#Family

#Nation

#Abbeylosophy

© @AbiodunMabadeje

HE DOESN'T LOVE ME ANYMORE

The bond of love between Tracy and Chuks was so strong in the early stages of their marriage.

Not too long after their marriage, Tracy began to show traces of disrespect for Chuks. Chuks found this behaviour from his wife very strange. Unknown to him she had started listening to wrong counsel from her friends and was acting out the script. All this because Chuks was not in a financial position that could fund the lifestyle Tracy had dreamt of having after marriage…

The mistake many people make is to think that tough times last forever…
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Sometimes, the fire of love burns out and its cord gets broken and once very affectionate lovebirds gradually grow apart and in some cases, they go apart.

You claim he doesn't have your time anymore; you say now that he has money he comes home late and goes after other women after you suffered with him when he didn't have anything. As far as you are concerned he no longer loves you.

You see, the question is not about suffering with him, it’s about HOW you suffered with him.

How did you treat him when he didn't have money? Did you respect him? Did you accord him the regard and honour a husband deserves though he may not have money? Or did you treat him like nobody and talk trash at him? Before he said one, you had said ten. You stood up to him. You told him you have equal rights in the house. If you asked him for money and he couldn’t provide it as at when you needed it, then he was not a man, irrespective of whatever he did the day before.

Madam, HOW did you suffer with him?

Maybe you didn't realise that while you treated him with disdain because he couldn't match up with your expectations (which in most cases are always based on trying to keep up with the Joneses, wanting to do what your friends or neighbours are doing, and greed and lack of contentment), you were sowing seeds and sending messages to him.

You were simply saying you don't love him, it is money you love and want. And this was so glaring to him because anytime he was able to make money available was when you cuddled up to him. And that was the only time he was allowed to touch you in any way a husband could touch his wife.

But the irony is that now that he has money, the seeds you sowed are beginning to germinate and are even bearing fruits.

I must say this is not a blanket message, but he that has an ear, let him/her hear...

Women must understand that all men cannot operate at the same financial level. Women must understand that the dynamics of the economic realities of today are far from what it used to be and the rules of engagement must change. Women must accept that in today's world, it is wickedness to expect only the man to bear all the financial responsibilities, especially where the woman also works and earns income.

In the final analysis, I will say, let every family work out their own salvation with fear and trembling so that we will all have peaceful homes.

#TheyTwoShallBecomeOne

#Abbeylosophy  

Abiodun Mabadeje

WAR ZONE – The Family Angle

War as has been seen through the annals of history is not what any sane human being desires to see, wishes to have or prays to experience.

The aftermaths of war are usually devastating with a lot of casualties.

Almost every nation on earth (if not all) at one time or the other have had to swallow the bitter pills that engaging in wars have had to deal. 

Some nations come out of it stronger and better with of course a lot of commitment to see their fortunes turned around, but some other nations, especially on the African continent have not been able to do so and some will never be able to do so.

War in whatever form, size or shape is neither palatable nor desirable.

But think with me for a moment.

Imagine when our families now become WAR ZONES?

In recent times, families have been under siege from all forms of attacks. Some say these attacks are spiritual, while some others think they are just mere responses to natural dealings of man – man’s inhumanity to man you might say.

Wars within the family settings have degenerated to abysmal levels of husbands killings their wives and wives also snuffing life out of their husbands and they do this in the most dehumanizing way. Some cut off the genitals of their partners after killing them. Absolutely insane you’ll agree.

But how did we get here? What is going on? How can this tide be stem? How can the sanctity of life be restored to our families? What should be done to bring back love between husbands and their wives? 

These are nagging questions begging for answers as soon as possible before the whole family setting goes up in total flames.

Let me try and proffer a point or two that might help.

Why did you marry your partner? 

What did you see in him or her that made you say “I do”?

What were your expectations for that marriage (or relationship) in the first place?

How were you expecting them to be fulfilled?

All these expectations you have, do you think there fulfillment is the sole responsibility of your partner? (At least in the majority women mostly have tendency to think in this manner).

But what role do you think is yours in order to accomplish these expectations and achieve success in your marriage?

Where did it all start to go southward in your marriage? Can you trace it?

What role did you play in the southward trend? 

If your marriage/relationship is experiencing any discomfort at this moment, who is responsible?

Can this ugly trend be reversed?

How can it be reversed?

What can you do to reverse it if it is solely your responsibility to do so?

What is most important to you in this marriage, its success or failure?

That evil thought in your mind against your partner, why are you nursing it? 

Are you aware that if you went ahead to carry it out, even your own life can never remain the same again and it could be really devastating for you? You could go to jail.

If you have children, have you thought about the effects of this rampaging war on them economically, socially and even spiritually?

Why make your HOME A WAR ZONE when it can be a ZONE for PEACE?

Okay, enough of the questions.

What steps in the immediate can you take to begin the process of healing and reconciliation? (Alright, I know that is another question).

Have you thought of talking to a counselor or your spiritual mentor? (I thought I was about coming up with solutions? But these make sense now?)

Look at this one, will apologizing to your partner be an icebreaker, even if you are not the one at fault? (I know this is difficult for many people to do).

Enough!

We don’t want to hear another story of death or any such bad news again, at least not from your family after reading through this.

I challenge you to do all within your capacity to ensure the success of your home and marriage.

I love you and God loves you most.

Do share with me your success story and perhaps you will like to have a chat with me and discuss any issues, feel free to do so and we can together look for a workable solution.

Abiodun Mabadeje is my name.